Pet Peeves

Do you have a pet peeve? I do. Matter of fact I have a lot of them. Some of them make me sound so paranoid that I would not post them on this site. My kids say that I am CDO—that’s OCD in its proper alphabetical order. I think they say that because in StrengthFinders I am a top five Arranger. I am regularly doing things like straightening pictures on the wall, making sure that things are symmetrical and adjusting lamp shades. Other things that bother me: breadcrumbs or lint on the front of shirts or blouses, dirty windshields, people who tell me they have a good idea when it is not a good idea until it works, not using an apostrophe properly (particularly in the plural of a last name—i.e., I saw the Smith’s today), shirt collars not straight on the back of the neck, people who use I, my, me and mine instead of we, us, and our, and on and on.

I feel like I am baring my soul here by sharing some of my pet peeves. I am basically a transparent person who also has a top-five Self Confidence in StrengthFinders, so I can handle sharing some soul secrets. So here is another pet peeve: a church bulletin or a printed program (wedding, funeral, graduation, etc) that lists people on program something like this: Winthrop Luper, Elmira Dothan, Dr.  Bartholomew Pierce, and Samuel Hogan. Notice anything wrong? One person has a title while the others do not. Now that probably does not bother many people, but it really bothers me.

Everyone is equally important, so everyone should be treated in the same manner. If you are going to give one person in the program a title, then you must give titles to all of them. Makes sense to me!

I think the worst offenders of this are churches, and I will go so far to say that too many pastors are very proud to boast of their “doctorate” before or after their names. Our pastor, who has a PhD, asks to be called “Pastor David,” not Dr. Howard. I like that.

Everybody doesn’t have a bold title like “Doctor” or “Professor,” but everyone has the distinction of being a creation of God. Every person’s face into which we have ever gazed is one made in the image of God. As I have traveled internationally for the past 40+ years I have looked into many interesting faces,  thinking, Wow! God made that face! It is absolutely amazing that apart from identical twins, no two faces are exactly the same. Even those people who do very nasty things in our world are ones who the Heavenly Father loves just like you and me. God doesn’t show partiality.

Look around you each day and pay attention to faces. God created them all. Our responsibility is clear: to love the Lord my God with all my heart and to love my neighbor (ALL those faces) as I love myself.

Round Trip Ticket

Over a five year period along with our colleagues, we hosted  550 volunteers who came to work with us  for a minimum of 30 days. Living in the Sahel of West Africa where the temperatures can soar up to 120℉ can present challenges enough for a family but dealing with the needs of dozens of volunteers in those conditions multiplies the difficulties.

Those volunteers slept on an aluminum cot covered by a thin piece of nylon. Their lodging was an 8’ by 8’ space covered by a metal roof with walls made of woven elephant grass. They had a crude nightstand to keep their items off the cement pad because the most poisonous snakes came out at night, and it was dangerous to reach your hand on the ground to pick up something.

The volunteers used latrines made by the early volunteers and local villagers. The luxury was running water for the showers with hot water that was heated by a crude solar system that we made from local materials.

These men and women worked hard, and for the most part they did not complain. But when you get that many humans you can count on getting a few who are partial to complaining and griping about this or that. There were those guys who thought they knew so much more than those of us who lived there all the time.

During their 30 days of service, either Cheryl or I or one of the long-term volunteers (we had a few dozen to stay for 1-2 years) would take the volunteers in small groups for a break in Ouagadougou. This trip would usually include eating out at one of a couple of restaurants in the capital city that were good enough to take visitors from the states.

When I hosted a group, like the other hosts, I would offer to translate the menu items for them. There was usually one of the guys who was a “know-it-all” and would say that they did not need any help. I loved it when they ordered a dish just because it sounded like English and were surprised at what they were served. My favorite was when they ordered “steak tartare” thinking it was a steak served with tartar sauce. For those who don’t know, steak tartare is a popular French dish made of raw ground beef or horse meat mixed with several spices and served with a raw egg yolk on top of the patty.

There was one guy who was actually obnoxious about everything, and he not only irritated me, but no one wanted to work with him. One day he started in on me about something relatively insignificant but important for him. I listened and when he was finished, I responded, but he disagreed with my response. Trying to get the final word he said, “What makes you so smart about how to do things here in West Africa?” I know that I could have responded in a more gentle, kinder manner, but here is what I replied, “Ron, you came out here with a round-trip air ticket, and I came out here with a one-way ticket. I was here before you arrived, and I will be here long after you have returned to the USA.”

There are thousands of retired missionaries all over the world who dedicated their entire careers to serving in a foreign culture and sacrificing so many comforts of life and relationships with their families to tell people about Jesus in a language other than their native tongue. So many people who live around them each day do not even know of the challenges that these spiritual giants faced over decades of service. All of them traveled from their homeland to their country of service many times, but never did they possess a round-trip boat or air ticket.

I just wish that we could place a sign in the front yards of all these emeritus missionaries saying, “Heroes live here.”

Here’s to you Emeritus Missionaries! Thank you for your faithful service to the Lord.

Risk and Gain

I have been watching the NCAA Baseball playoffs and thinking about baseball a lot. Interestingly, I don’t watch much Major League Baseball. I am just not a big pro athletics fan. Those guys get paid obscene amounts of money to perform for audiences that either pay to watch them in person or sit through endless advertisements to watch their team on television.

I love college sports, and I actively follow Mississippi State and Ole Miss. As I write this both of my teams are playing in the NCAA baseball super regionals.

Baseball was a passion during my childhood. My dad was my first coach as a nine-year old on a minor league team in the Little League program. After a year in the minors I moved up. He stayed with the minor league teams for a few more years and then moved up to Little League after I was playing in the Pony League (for 13 and 14 year-olds).

My dad was a passionate, but caring coach. He coached youth league baseball for many years, and he endeared himself to many boys. When he passed away, many of his former baseball players (now in their 60s and 70s) were at the visitation at the funeral home. I stepped into one of their small groupings, and they were talking about how much they loved my dad, Pete, and how much he had influenced their lives. What a powerful legacy Pete left behind with his baseball boys!

Since we are caring for my mother in her home during this season, I have run into some of his baseball boys in businesses around my hometown. Two of them own the farmers market and nursery in town, and I stopped to visit with one of them recently. We were sharing the story of Pete having a dilemma. Two of his pitchers lived in a nearby town, and neither had transportation to come to practice twice a week. Pete ran a route for Wonder Bread at that time, and he worked it out so that his last stop was in that small town where the two pitchers lived. He would pick them up in his bread truck at that last stop and take them to practice, and one of the parents of other players would take the boys home.

I found out years later that if the company had known that Pete was picking up those boys, or any passenger for that matter, he would have been fired. Pete took a big risk to get those boys to practice. Pete admitted to me that those boys were key to him having a successful season, so he needed them. He also told me that they needed him. Both boys came from unstable homes with challenging conditions and relationships. The highlight of the week for those two boys and my dad was the baseball practices.

I asked Pete about the risk of losing his job by picking up these boys. He responded to me, “What I gained and what those boys gained was worth the risk.”

Throughout my career I have not intentionally been careless, but I also have not shied away from risks. The one area where I have not been successful is in financial risks. I have flopped with several investments and a business venture, but I have found that some of the greatest rewards have come from taking a chance on someone or some idea or some wild strategic plan. The biggest risk is not taking any risks.

I love the anonymous proverb: “The person who does nothing does nothing.”

I like working with people who are not afraid of failure. As an old man now, people still call me for counsel, consultation and advice. Why? Definitely not because I am intelligent, but because I have made so many mistakes in my life that I have had more than a lifetime of opportunities to correct those mistakes thereby gaining experience and expertise.

How many failures have you experienced in the last year? If you are not experiencing failures of some sort, then you are probably not taking enough risks in your life.

God took the ultimate risk in sending Jesus to live on the earth. My faith in God cannot and will not exist without a little bit of risk. Go ahead. Take a risk on something or someone.

Best or Right?

Five hundred and fifty volunteers accepted our invitation. They all came for a minimum of 30 days of service to a land where none of the 550 had ever set foot, and, for the most part they had never heard about until they were challenged to go and serve there. 

Long before any of them ever arrived in Upper Volta, West Africa, our family had been preparing to lead these folks to have life-changing experiences. 

While we were serving in Côte d’Ivoire (Ivory Coast), we were burdened to use my agricultural experience in helping thirsty and hungry people in the Sahel (the transitional area between the Sahara to the north and the savanna area to the south). However, our leadership at that time did not allow me to serve as an agriculturist because I did not have a degree in agriculture. 

After much prayer, we decided that during our furlough period in the states, I would pursue a degree in agriculture. We had to take a leave of absence to complete the master’s degree, and in the middle of my studies, our leader called me on the phone and said that he was ready for us to return immediately to the field because the Tennessee Baptist Convention would be approving a large scale development project and sending hundreds of volunteers to Upper Volta.  They wanted us back on the field right away to lead this project. 

I respectfully declined this request and told my leader that he was the one who had said that I could not be an agricultural evangelist because I did not have a degree, and that I intended to get that degree before returning to the field. I went on to say to him that someone in the future might say to me that I could not continue serving as an agriculturist because I did not have a degree. I knew that I was taking a risk by not agreeing to my leader’s request, so we did not know what was going to happen.

A couple of weeks later our leader called and said that Tennessee Baptists had agreed to postpone launching the project for one year and that we would still be able to lead the work when I completed my studies. I received my degree in mid December 1980, we were In Ouagadougou by the end of the month, and the first group of volunteers arrived the first week of January 1981. 

Refusing to accept my leader’s request to return to the field was a most unusual thing for me. Throughout my career I have prided myself in my loyalty to the brand. For most of my career I have only worked for three organizations, and I have been loyal to these organizations even to this day. 

The first chapter of Joshua has long been one of my favorite chapters in the Bible. During my recent second bout with cancer I often was reminded of this chapter’s admonition to be strong and courageous and not be afraid. 

Joshua 1:16-18 states: “All that you have commanded us we will do, and wherever you send us we will go. Just as we obeyed Moses in all things, so we will obey you. Only may the Lord your God be with you, as he was with Moses! Whoever rebels against your commandment and disobeys your words, whatever you command him, shall be put to death. Only be strong and courageous.” 

It was difficult to say no to my leader in that telephone call in the fall of 1979, but I felt that it was the right thing. I felt that his request was for the expediency of launching the project rather than what was best for our family. Through the seasons of our adult lives, Cheryl and I have learned that many times there are numerous “good things” that you can choose when facing decisions, but usually there is only one right thing to do when you want to honor the Lord.

Often I hear of someone making a tough decision, and they say I made the best decision I could make. Maybe the “best decision” is not always the “right” decision. I am going with the right decision every opportunity I get because the best one may not be the one the Lord wants me to do, but the right one should always be the one that will honor the Lord. 

Jabal Mousa

Christians, Jews and Muslims all believe that God delivered His Ten Commandments to Moses at the summit of Mount Sinai. Mount Sinai is also known as Mount Moses or Jabal Mousa in Arabic. Mt. Sinai is called Mt. Horeb in the Book of Deuteronomy. "Sinai" and "Horeb" are generally considered by biblical scholars to refer to the same place.

Mt. Sinai rises behind the storied, 4th century St. Catherine's Monastery, the oldest continuously operating Christian monastery in existence. As most of the Sinai Peninsula, it is a desolate place with lots of brown tones and sparse vegetation.

Although there is debate as to whether the summit of Moses’ Mountain is the actual historical site where Moses received the Ten Commandments, this is certainly the traditional, recognized location. The fact is that many people (including me) have had a spiritual experience while ascending the mountain or when reaching the summit.

Nearly all hikers take one of the two well-defined routes up to the summit: the Camel Trail or the Steps of Repentance Trail. Both trails meet about 300 meters below the summit at a plateau known as Elijah’s Basin. To continue to the summit, you must take a steep series of 750 rocky and uneven steps. There is a small chapel and a mosque at the top.

The Steps of Repentance trail consists of 3000 roughly hewn rock steps that are steep and crudely formed. The steps were laid by a monk and others as a form of penance.

Cheryl and I had the opportunity to climb Mt. Sinai when we lived in Cairo. Our colleagues, Madelyn and Mike Edens had lived in Cairo for over 20 years, so they were experienced Mt. Sinai climbers. The Edens took us on our Mt. Sinai adventure, and they advised us to take both trails—the Camel Trail on the way up and the Steps of Repentance Trail on the way down. There was good rationale for that order—the Camel Trail is more gradual than the steep repentance steps. However, the descent on the uneven stones was grueling on the knees.

There were little coffee and tea stands on the Camel Trail where the weary pilgrim could sit on a rock and sip a hot beverage. Mike and I left Madelyn and Cheryl at one of these respites, and the girls said that they would come along in a bit.

Well, we waited at the top for a while, but our wives did not show up. We descended the mountain and went to the car for some refreshments, and we were surprised to find Cheryl and Madelyn at the car. We asked how we missed them at the summit, and they said that they turned around at the coffee stand and walked back down. I told Cheryl that she missed the full experience by not going to the top. Her reply: “Who says that Moses went all the way to the top of the mountain?”

That was funny at the time, but later we read this passage of scripture: “Then the LORD came down on Mount Sinai, to the top of the mountain; and the LORD called Moses to the top of the mountain, and Moses went up.” Exodus 19:20

How many times do we settle for a mountain-side experience when with more effort we can have a mountain-top experience? Colossians 3:23-24 states: “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.

 

 

Stamps on the Street

During the late 80s and early 90s when I was traveling frequently and working in Central Asia, all flights in and out of Central Asia had to go through Moscow. Over the six years of traveling in the USSR, I watched the Soviet empire crumble as communism fell and free enterprise began developing. I remember the first time I saw bananas for sale by a street vendor—something that was not allowed during the Communist days. I saw a line of people two blocks long that started on an empty street corner for apparently no reason—only later to see a truck from a collective farm arrive with milk and ice cream.

Once while walking down a Moscow street, I watched as a long line of people formed at a small shop about 20 feet wide. Being a curious farmer, I had to know what they were lined up for. I asked my interpreter to find out for me. He said that many people in the line did not know what was in the store, but since a line was forming, they figured it was for something that was difficult to find, so they just joined the line. He discovered that the small shop sold wedding veils!

There was not much to buy before communism fell, but I have been a lifelong stamp collector, and even in desolate places like North Korea, one can buy stamps when no other souvenirs are available. During “glasnost”, people started selling or swapping wares on the sidewalks in Russia and Central Asia. One of the things that I enjoyed buying was small stamp collections. One might say that I was taking advantage of these poor people who had to sell their stamp collections to get money to feed their families. But I would counter with the fact that since they were offering them for sale, then at least I could give them a decent price. Plus, I would give them US dollars for which they were extremely grateful since the value of the Russian Ruble was tumbling daily.

Once I stopped traveling regularly in the former Commonwealth of Independent States, Jim Tilton started sending me from time-to-time other small stamp collection books that he purchased from street peddlers or local markets.

I am presently working through some of those small books of stamps that Jim and I collected over the years. Some of the stamps are crimped and torn, but most of them are in good condition. Some of them are really old stamps. Each one represents someone’s tender care to preserve a snippet of paper for future generations to enjoy.

Maybe if all the people who are concerned with preserving the planet would leave that task to the stamp collectors, then we would not have to worry about the wellbeing of planet earth.

God has given us the task of stewarding His earth. “For the earth is the Lord’s and everything in it.” I Corinthians 10:26.

Ashamed

When we are traveling by car, Cheryl and I enjoy one station on Sirius XM more than all the others. It is called Radio Classics. Programming includes comedies, variety shows, detective shows and other dramatic shows from the 1930s-1960s. Television decreased the popularity of radio programming beginning in the late 1950s, and I am sure the only people interested in Radio Classics today are people who are as old as we are.

My favorites are the police detective shows like Johnny Dollar, Richard Diamond, Broadway Is My Beat, Sam Spade and many others. We also enjoy comedies like Fibber Magee, Life of Riley, Great Gildersleeve, and Burns and Allen. Then, there are the westerns—Hopalong Cassidy, The Cisco Kid, Fort Laramie, Texas Rangers, and the all-time favorite, Gunsmoke.

While traveling to Mississippi this past week, we were listening to Dragnet while my mother snoozed in the backseat. The story was about a scam to collect money from donors who thought they were giving to a crippled children’s home. The scammers were able to get a list of donors from the home, and they would appear unannounced on the doorstep of regular donors. They were fast talkers and convinced the donors to give them cash or checks intended for the crippled children.

Joe Friday and his associate interviewed the lady who ran the home. During the conversation, the lady said that she was ashamed to live in the same city with these crooks. She went on to say why would God allow these crooks to do such a thing to the poor crippled children. Finally, she added this statement: “God should come and punish them. Why doesn’t God do that?” Joe Friday responded: “Maybe God is ashamed also!”

That statement made me do some cogitating. I began to wonder how many times God has been ashamed of something that I have done. This brought me to a time of commitment asking the Lord to help me in my efforts to not make Him ashamed of my actions. That is a big God-sized order considering the sinful nature of man and my own sinful temperament.

“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” Philippians 4:8 ESV

Stumps

Social status has long been an institution in Mississippi. When I tell people that I was born on a farm in Mississippi some think that my family owned a cotton plantation. When I was growing up, social status was assigned to farmers according to the number of acres that they owned.

Both sides of family were very small farmers meaning they owned less than a hundred acres, and they worked the land themselves to earn a living. My mother’s family did not even own a tractor to plow the land. My dad’s father owned an International Cub tractor. In post-World War II this small tractor was billed as the replacement for the mule on the American farm.

Both of these families lived in Carroll County, Mississippi, which was (and still is) one of the poorest counties in the state, and the state was the poorest in the nation, so that tells you a lot about my roots!

While growing up in rural Mississippi I spent a lot of time on my grandmother’s farm. Two of my uncles lived with her and took care of the farm.

My mother’s family used mules to plow the fields, and my uncles taught me to use the mules to pull a wooden sled. I wasn’t big enough to handle the plow with two big mules, but I spent a lot of time in the fields watching my uncles work so I could learn more about how to handle the mule-driven sled. I learned the “gee haw” language of commands for the mules.

There were many tree stumps in fields where my family planted corn and cotton, and with no machinery to get them out of the ground, these stumps were left to rot in the fields. In a newly planted field these stumps stood out as they towered above the plowed ground. One would think that they received no attention.

However, I watched my uncles as they plowed the rows between the tender young plants. As they passed a stump with the mule-driven plow, they would barely nick the edge of the stump with the tip of the plow. The harnesses on the mules would snap on the sweat-laden shoulders of the mules as the sharp tip of the iron struck the stump. A small portion of the stump would be chipped away. Every time they passed a stump, they did the same thing.

Although these stumps held on to the earth around them long after their productive life had ended, they were not serving any purpose for producing corn. They stood out in the field—literally and figuratively—and I knew that my uncles were plotting all year long on how to get rid of those stumps.

In my leadership experience I have often dealt with “stumps.” These stumps were people who were opposed to change.

Statistics have shown that whenever change in the workplace culture is initiated, 20% of the people affected are eager to accept the expected changes. Those who are resistant to the changes comprise about 30% of the workers, and the remaining 50% are astride the fence—neither eager for the changes or adamantly opposed to the changes. If you were the leader, with whom would you work the hardest? Certainly not the 20% because they are ready to follow you in implementing the changes. So, would invest the most time in the 50% or the 30%?

Hands down, I would always work the hardest with the 50% attempting to get them on board with the proposed transformations. Many leaders would choose to spend a lot of time working with the naysayers, but my philosophy is different. The lower hanging fruits are those in the middle, so I would invest more time in them to get them on board.

For sure I would not forget about the 30%, but, in reality, they are the “stumps.” I would “nick” (more appropriately “nudge”) them from time to time to give them some attention and try to point them to their colleagues who were accepting the changes as being positive for the mission of the organization. In time some of these stumps would actually become advocates for the restructuring and repositioning.

Over a period of time the stumps in the field would go away. The nicking of the plow would help, but in the end the stump was not going to go away quickly. My uncles resolved to work around the stumps—not ignoring them and not making them the center of their attention.

People are the same: eventually, the naysayers (the 30%) will fade away either because they don’t have any more life energy or no one pays any attention to them anymore or they finally come around to realizing that change is imminent.

If we never change, then we die. I saw something once that went like this: do not fight the old but build the new.

Preparing for Eternity

My mother had her 91st birthday recently. To attain her age is not a remarkable achievement in our present day but let me tell you some remarkable things about her.

She grew up with 10 siblings in a three room house with no insulation, no indoor plumbing and the only sources of heat were a fireplace, a pot-bellied stove and a wood-burning kitchen stove. They had their baths in a large metal tub. In the summertime they hauled the tub outside and drew water from a well for their bath. In the winter they had to heat water on the wood-burning stove for their bath water.

In the wintertime they would heat up a flat rock on the heath of the wood-burning fireplace. After the rock was warm, they would wrap it in a piece of cloth and take it to bed with them to warm their bed. An occasional radio program was their only  entertainment. The iceman would come once a week, and they would buy a couple blocks of ice for their ice box (that is not a colloquial term for an electric refrigerator!) When they ran out of ice, they would keep their milk cool in the earthen cistern where runoff rainwater from the metal roof was stored.

My dad was not only my mother’s soulmate for 72 years, but during the last five years before his passing he was also her eyes. Like her mother before her, my mother suffers from macular degeneration. For several years she has been legally blind. She can see very blurry images, but she manages to get around her home with the aid of a walker or a cane. She cannot read, and she shared with me that one of the things she misses the most is reading her Bible.

Each night since last year I have called my mother about 8 pm her time, and I read a devotional and pray with her. I usually read one of Rick Warren’s devotionals from the “Daily Hope” ap. My mother especially likes them because Allison has worked with Saddleback Church’s staff editing Rick’s sermons and presenting them in devotional form for nine years.

I have been cogitating a lot on one of the recent devos. It made the point that for eternity we will be serving the Lord, so all our life should be spent practicing being a servant so we will be good servants for the Lord for eternity.  I wish that years ago I had understood that fact like I do now. What a great lesson to teach our children and grandchildren—practice serving others on earth so we will better serve the Lord forever.

This is what God expects of us—to serve others in the name of our Lord and Savior. True service to others is not about what I can get out of my service to them, but it is all about what benefit I can render for the person I am serving.

Thank you, Lord, for providing a training ground during our lives on earth so that we can better serve you for eternity.

Pleonasm

When we came back to the states from West Africa, one of my early friends from our local church in Olive Branch, Mississippi was Jim, who was the President of a local bank. He had a pack of beagles that were trained to hunt rabbits. He was serious about his beagles, and he could have purchased a horse for what he paid for some of his beagles. He also knew everybody in the community, so he had a lot of good places to run the beagles. I accused him of asking people if he could hunt on their property before he would agree to give them a loan.

Jim invited me to go an many hunts during our time in Olive Branch. After they are flushed from the undergrowth, rabbits usually make a wide circle with the dogs hot on their trail, and they come back to where they were originally jumped. Some hunters like to wait for the rabbits at the jump site and then harvest the rabbits when they return. I am not big on shooting them, and I definitely don’t wait at the jump site. I love to follow the dogs through the briars and thickets. To me, the fun is in the chase. To listen to the dogs as they follow the trail with their noses to the ground to pick up the scent of the rabbit. I love the sound of beagles picking up a scent and then jerking their heads up and letting out a howl. Music to my ears.

Although rabbit hunting season is usually limited to a few months in the winter, serious rabbit hunters take their beagles out to run the rabbits year around—just without any guns. That’s the part of the sport that I enjoy the most—just running the dogs.

After we moved to Clinton, Mississippi, where I served as an administrator and teacher at Mississippi College, I started buying some beagles. Incidentally, these were not the first beagles we had owned. We bought our first beagle right after we started my first fulltime job after graduate school. Her name was Maggie, and she lived with us in our tiny apartment. Maggie was a still a house dog when we moved from Florida to Vicksburg, Mississippi. In Vicksburg she had a litter of puppies, and I raised two of her puppies to be hunting beagles. I would take Felix and Oscar to join some friends with other beagles on some awesome rabbit hunts along the Mississippi River.

Now the beagles I was buying were not the pedigreed ones that my friend Jim was buying, but they were nevertheless of good stock. The most expensive beagle that I ever owned was named Bila. His name was from the More’ language of the Mossi people in Burkina Faso. Bila was really adept at making the first jump on a rabbit, and he could stick with the best on the scent. There was only one problem with Bila—he also loved to run deer! That is one trait that is intolerable with a good rabbit dog. You don’t want to be on a rabbit hunt and have your jump dog get on the trail of a deer.

One Saturday in the off-season my dad was visiting us, and he and I went to run the beagles. We were on a friend’s farmland that adjoined thousands of acres of timberland—mostly pine trees. Deer love to hang out in pine thickets during the daytime and feed during the night. Bila jumped a deer and the rest of the dogs followed suit. Unlike rabbits, deer run in a straight line away from the dogs and the longer the dogs run them the farther the deer run before they stop. Bila did not give up easily, so my dad and I had a long wait ahead of us. After 45 minutes of waiting, all the dogs except Bila had returned to our pickup. I left my dad with the other dogs loaded up in the back of the pickup and went in search of Bila.

After an hour I found him walking slowly back towards the pickup, and his tongue was hanging out the side of his mouth. I was so angry at him. I hooked the leash to his collar and gave him a couple of strong jerks and headed towards the pickup. After a few minutes he stopped, raised his nose in the air and suddenly lunged away from me. Bila wound up on the other side of a dead tree about 12” in diameter. I turned my back and gave the leash a hard jerk. I was turned away from Bila trying to walk away, and as I snatched at the leash that action toppled the dead tree. The tree stuck the back of my head and instantly I was knocked out.

I don’t know how long I was lying on the ground, but I was awakened by Bila licking my face. I was bleeding from the wound, and I have no idea how long I had passed out, but I credit Bila for saving my life. After putting pressure on the wound with a bandana, Bila and I met up with my dad. He drove us to the ER in a nearby town where my gash was sewed up. The doctor told me that I was very fortunate because I had encountered what many people call a “widow-maker,” and I had survived thanks to my dog.

For most of my life we have owned at least one dog, and they have all been good friends. Dogs have been domesticated for thousands of years, and they have earned the notoriety of being “man’s best friend.” I love the two dogs that we have now. Cloud is a Great Pyrenees, and she is the lowest maintenance dog we have ever owned. She drinks water from the pond or stream, I have a self-feeder for her, and she lives in the pasture with the cows, goats, chickens and ducks. When we brought her home as a six-month-old, I had an extra-large igloo doghouse waiting for her in the pasture, but she never went inside. She sleeps on the open ground unless it is raining or there is deep snow on the ground, and then she sleeps in the goat barn.

Boss is a mixed breed neutered male who is 15 years old and sleeps on his Tempur-pedic dog bed on the front porch. He is such a faithful outdoor companion for me. Whenever I crank up the Kubota RTV he climbs into his regular place in the floorboard of the front passenger seat. Only problem is that he is so old now that some days he cannot climb into the Kubota, and if I try to help him it is uncomfortable for him. So, I have to pull up so that the passenger side is lowered to make it easier for him to get in. He goes everywhere I go on the farm, and he waits patiently for me when I am splitting firewood, working in the garden, hauling hay or whatever. I know he will soon be passing on, and I will deeply miss him.

Although dogs don’t verbally communicate with their masters, they certainly know how to express themselves and bond themselves with their masters. Sometimes we humans are guilty of using too many words to express ourselves. This week a friend introduced me to a new word for me—pleonasm. Cambridge Dictionary defines pleonasm: the use of more words than are needed to express a meaning, done either unintentionally or for emphasis. Some examples: “kick it with your feet,” “a careful caregiver,” “I myself,” “my own eyes,” or “burning fire.”

I think that the same train of thought is appropriate in dealing with our relationships with other people. I find that sometimes I struggle with talking too much when I should not be saying anything. Too many words can hurt rather than heal. When a friend or family member experiences the loss of a loved one, most times it is best not to say much because the greatest thing you can do for someone in this situation is just to be there with them. Love on them. Hug them. Hold their hand. Put your hand on their shoulder. Words can’t replace the human touch and presence.  

Practice using fewer words to express yourself. It does not come naturally for me, but I am working on it.

“When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable, but he who restrains his lips is wise.” Proverbs 10:19

Ask Arabs

We went to Upper Volta (now Burkina Faso) in December 1980 to lead a large-scale community development project that would result in the planting of churches in the Diabo Prefecture in the eastern part of the country. We were not alone in this effort as the Tennessee Baptist Convention sent teams of volunteers every two weeks during the dry season—September through May.

Our work was categorized in four buckets: agriculture development, water resources, public health and literacy. The first big water project was the construction of a dam which resulted in a 62 acre lake.  I am a Mississippi farm boy, and all I knew about building dams was actually tearing them down! As a boy I had a lot of fun trying to take apart beaver dams on Sweetwater Creek near my grandmother’s home.

I knew that I needed some help in engineering the design and construction of an earthen dam to hold back 150,000,000 gallons of water when the lake was filled.

I started asking a lot of questions in government offices in Ouagadougou and found out that a Dutch company had an office there. If the Dutch could keep the lowlands of Holland from flooding, then they could certainly help me. By divine appointment I met Gerard Pichel, a Dutch water engineer who lived in Ouaga and had just completed his first year of a three-year contract. Gerard was an immigrant to the Netherlands from Indonesia, and he proved to be a valuable asset in the design, planning and oversight of the construction of the dam.

I contracted with him to make a weekly day-long visit to our project site during the nine months that we would be constructing the lake and dam. It was imperative that we complete our work before the rainy season. Even though we lived at the edge of the Sahara and no rain fell during the nine months of the dry season, we received about 20 inches of rain in a three-month period during the rainy season. Most of the 20 inches came in a few torrential rainfalls, and the run-off coefficient from the rainfall was so severe that the rapid flow of water had long ago washed away the topsoil in this semi-arid area in the Sahel.

Our family got to know Gerard and his wife quite well, and we enjoyed sharing time together over a two-year period. One time I asked him what he thought about the United States. Remember that this was the beginning of the sugar industry’s attack on fatty foods which in the early 80s resulted in the boom in the weight loss industry.

I will never forget his response: “America is the only country in the world where you pay money to help you lose weight!”

Things have changed a lot in the past forty years because now people around the world pay money to lose weight, but at that time that was his impression of the United States.

In the early 1990s I asked central Asians what they thought about the United States. Almost to a person they said they have grown up hating America but not its people. Their communist-led governments taught them to hate the American government. They all said once they met people from the United States that they liked them. 

Fast forward to the late 1990s and I asked some Arab friends what they thought of Americans. Their responses were consistently the same. They would say that they are all Christians, and they all do three things: drink scotch whiskey, smoke Marlboro cigarettes, and have extramarital affairs. 

What a sad commentary on our country, but they learned this by watching American television shows—and that was the 90s! I don’t really want to know what people from other countries think about Americans today, but I am sure their responses would not be positive.

God help us if other countries are defining their moral standards by the United States. In a 2018 Gallup Poll more than three in four Americans say that US moral values are getting worse. Our standards for acceptable behavior have changed considerably with the last two new generations—Millennials and Gen Z. I am not blaming these two generations for the decay of our culture, but we from the Baby Boomers and Gen X have allowed this travesty to happen.

What was not acceptable to us thirty years ago is now thrust on us in the media. It has become acceptable in the public place to hear conversations or even monologues of the most vulgar language. Who wants to listen to that nasty stuff people have chosen on their car audio? But we don’t have a choice when they are blasting out thousands of decibels on their super charged woofers and tweeters. Why can’t movie producers make a film without adding expletives. Unfortunately, our lives are molded by the media, so I will blame the people making the movies, TV shows, and other media for the decay of our ethical standards.

In the end it is our fault as we have allowed this to happen without speaking out in opposition to the enslavement of our minds. Have you heard anyone recently talk about a moral compass? I have not. A moral compass helps us define what kind of behavior is right or wrong in our lives. I would not be surprised that if you were to ask 100 random people what their moral compass is based on, a large percentage of them would say something like this: What is right for me or what makes me feel good or what helps me.

All of us need to adjust our moral compass to be based on the teachings of the Bible and to point only to what brings glory and honor to our Lord and Savior.

All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work. 2 Timothy 3:16-17

Whispers

Wade and Nancy came to work with us in Upper Volta (now called Burkina Faso) at the same time as Ted and Carol. They each served for a year as volunteers from Tennessee. Nancy worked in our literacy program and Carol worked in our clinic. Ted and Wade were teachers for Jason and Jeremy and also for Cory and Jason, children of our colleagues. Amanda was a preschooler, but she also had a little table in the school building where she would occasionally do some assigned activities.

We had built a small (15’ x 15’) classroom building out behind our two houses (that we also built with the help of Tennessee volunteers). It was a good school year for the four boys. Ted and Wade did a good job guiding the boys through their Calvert home school curriculum and adding many other activities to enhance their learning experiences.  

The four boys have many fond memories of school with Uncle Ted and Uncle Wade, but among the best are the special activities in their own Royal Ambassadors (RAs) program. Among their activities were campcraft, fire building, and a bike-a-thon to raise money for a mission offering. All this may not seem impressive to readers but remember that this was in the “bush” of West Africa near the edge of the Sahara Desert.

After this life-changing experience in West Africa, Wade and Nancy went back to their teaching jobs in Memphis and began having children. But the Lord was not finished with them overseas. They became missionaries and were assigned to work in Peru. During their service in Peru, Wade, Nancy and their two boys were in a tragic accident in the mountains near Trujillo, Peru. All four of them were injured, but Wade was the most serious. He was air evacuated to Memphis with life threatening injuries.

For months Wade was in a coma. I was traveling to the states from my overseas assignment, and I decided that I needed to go and visit with Nancy, and I wanted to see Wade. 

In the hospital I visited with Nancy beside Wade’s comatose body. There had been no movement or sound from his body since the accident. When I was ready to depart the hospital room, I told Nancy that I was going to pray in More’ before I left. I am not sure why I said that I would pray in More’ which was the local African language that we had spoken in Burkina Faso. Nancy had been a literacy teacher, so she had picked up a lot of the local language, and Wade enjoyed speaking More’ with the boys’ friends. Besides it had been 15 years since we left West Africa, and I was not sure how much More’ I recalled.

Nevertheless, the words spurted out of my mouth that I was going to pray in More’, so I began to pray. As I started the prayer I held Wade’s limp hand and bent near to Wade’s ear, and I began to whisper the prayer in his ear. When I finished the prayer, I let go of Wade’s hand, and as I did, he moved his forefinger ever so slightly. Nancy and I were shocked. It was a small, but significant movement because that was his first response since the accident.

Several weeks later Wade was able to go home. Although he never regained enough mobility to walk,  he was grateful for a few more years of life to watch his boys mature into manhood.  

Never underestimate the importance of whispering. I have made it a practice to whisper in the ear of every one of our 16 grandchildren. I started whispering to them when I was first introduced to each of them. Interestingly, one of the first words our grandchildren have spoken is “Papa”—probably because of my whispering “Papa loves you.”

God uses whisperers. God Himself also whispers into our spirits. I believe that God whispers to us much more than we realize because we are so busy that we just don’t hear his whispers.

Elijah heard God’s whispers. When he ran from the threats of Jezebel, he hid in a cave. He did not hear God in a strong wind, an earthquake or a fire. But Elijah heard God in a whisper (I Kings 19).

God was in the whisper. God does not like to shout. He is speaking to us in whispers. Listen!

“Whether you turn to the right or the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you saying, ‘ This is the way, walk in it.’” Isaiah 30:21

Omega Shamblin

Chick-fil-A made the term “second mile service” popular in the early 2000s, but Omega Shamblin practiced it long before that time. 

Omega Shamblin was an engineer with the Corps of Engineers based in Vicksburg, Mississippi. He was not looking forward to retirement as he was a workaholic. 

When he absolutely had to retire, his family was concerned about what he would do to occupy himself. They were sincerely worried that he would just die if he could not work.

I was serving at First Baptist Church in Vicksburg, and not only was Mr. Shamblin a faithful member, but he was also a willing volunteer anytime we needed any help. Upon hearing of his retirement, I invited him to serve as an official volunteer at the church. We set up a small office for him, and he accepted every assignment we gave him. 

He loved working—whether it was ordering literature, helping out in the kitchen on Wednesday nights, or doing statistical studies of church attendance. 

Our family left First Baptist, Vicksburg, to serve as missionaries. After living in France and Côte d’Ivoire, we returned to the states and lived in Starkville, Mississippi for me to work on a Master’s degree in Agriculture at Mississippi State University. During 1980 we frequently visited our home church in Vicksburg and talked about the work we were preparing for in Upper Volta. At that time Mr. Shamblin still worked from his desk in that small office at the church. 

We had to return to the states in 1982 for the birth of Allison, and my ensuing bout with Hepatitis B led to an extended stay of over 4 months in the states. During that time we shared with our friends in Vicksburg a lot about life in “the bush” of West Africa. 

Once we returned to West Africa, Cheryl’s dad bought us a video player and camera. This was in 1983, and VHS tapes had been around a while, but VHS cameras were a novelty. The camera and player were sent to us in a footlocker as extra baggage with one of the many volunteers from Memphis. 

The equipment was huge! The camera was attached to the battery pack and player/recorder and was a cumbersome load to carry around, but it was a great way for us to make VHS tapes of our work and send it back to family and friends in the USA. It was also a great way to preserve special family memories. As a matter of fact, during this COVID season, I have been organizing all those VHS tapes we made over the years and getting them digitalized.

After Mr. Shamblin retired once again from his volunteer position at the church, he found out that we had the video rig, and he subscribed to the Disney channel so he could record movies and children’s programs on VHS tapes to send to our kids. Over a three-year period he averaged taping one VHS tape every two weeks. 

We only had electricity 2-3 hours a day produced by a generator at the volunteer camp. Thanks to Mr. Shamblin, our kids and some village kids were able to watch Disney Channel programs and movies in the bush of West Africa. 

Omega Shamblin was a true servant and an early adopter of Chick-fil-A’s famous “Second Mile Service.”

 

Granddaddy Cox and Integrity

When my mom and dad were married, my grandaddy (my dad’s father) helped my dad build them a house just across the road from their farmhouse. I don’t remember that small house because by the time I was three we had moved to town. My dad had tried logging to make a living, but he figured he could do better with a job in town.

We visited the Cox farm regularly, and my earliest memories of my granddaddy were from that farm. Grandmama made me a preschool-sized cotton-picking bag. I would work hard to fill my bag with cotton, so I could drag it to the cotton shed where we would weigh my cotton and then I would climb into the shed and almost drown under the fluffy, but prickly cotton (lots of hulls, debris and even some cockleburs!)

When granddaddy was working the fields with his International Farmall Cub tractor, Grandmama would give me a quart jar of ice water and tell me to hurry down the hill from the house to take Granddaddy some water. I would run down the hill with my preschooler legs churning away and my mind racing with excitement about what was going to happen when I arrived at the field where granddaddy was working. I would get to ride on the tractor with him for a few minutes. I would stand up between his knees and he would let me put my hands on the steering wheel. I made a lot of memories with my grandaddy in that cotton field.

The International Cub Farmall tractor was designed by engineers in the years following World War II to replace a horse or mule on the small family farm. Every time I have seen a Farmall Cub, I have had instant good memories of my grandfather. Several years ago while driving back to Georgia from my parent’s home, I saw a Cub tractor for sale on the side of the road in Mathison, Mississippi. I quickly turned around and went back to look at the tractor. After a few minutes of looking it over, I asked the seller if it ran. He said, “Sure it runs. I would not be selling it if it did not run.” I bought it on the spot. I phoned my dad and asked him to go to Mathison near Starkville, Mississippi to pick up the tractor. Later I drove over to pick up the tractor and bring it to its new home.

It did run, but it needed major work, so I contracted with a guy to restore the Cub. After a few months he returned to our farm with the tractor. It looked great. After going over it with him he agreed that it needed some more work i.e. lights did not work, throttle would slip, etc. He said that he would come to our farm to do that work the next week. We agreed that I would go ahead and pay him the full cost of restoration.

The next week passed and the next, but he never came back to finish the job. He would not answer my phone calls. I dislike voicemail, but I left him messages nonetheless—all to no avail. The guy still owed me a few hundred dollars of work, but he obviously had little integrity.

The only recourse I had was to share with my hobby farmer friends not to let this guy do any work for them.

I always thought my granddaddy was a man of integrity, and I have tried to be like him all my life. He was a farmer who, like so many others in the 50s and 60s was a victim of not being able to support his family from farming 80 acres with a little 9 horsepower tractor. The big farms were already driving the agriculture industry, so Granddaddy had to sell the farm to pay off his debts. They moved to town, and he started selling candy. He would sell a box of candy to individuals, and they would sell the candy one bar at a time. It was a tough way to make a living, but he did it. Later on he began working for the city, so he had more stable employment until he retired.

Granddaddy worked hard, but I never heard him complain about not having enough money, and I never heard him say a bad word about another person. I never heard another person say an angry or negative thing about my grandfather. He was a man of integrity. The world would be a better place to live if everyone had the same integrity as my grandfather.

“The righteous man walks in his integrity; his children are blessed after him.” Proverbs 20:7.

Maypops

My grandfather on my mother’s side passed away when I was only five years old, so I did not get to know him, but my grandmother who we called “Mama Downs” had a farm, and that was my favorite place to visit when I was growing up. Granted, her house was nothing to write home about, but she had acres of pasture and woods and animals. There were just so many places to explore. My cousins and I would build forts out of branches and sage grass. We would then gather a generous supply of maypops that we would use as weapons.

Oh, you have never heard of maypops. The maypop is a fast-growing perennial vine with climbing stems. It is a member of the passionflower genus Passiflora and is also called purple passionflower. Below this posting is an image of a maypop and its beautiful purple flower.

When you throw a maypop at someone, and it smacks them on the head, the maypop makes a popping sound. I know that is not why they are named maypops, but it surely sounds good when you are playing war with your playmates.

One day when the cousins and I were exploring, we were in a deep and dark ravine and found the remains of several metal barrels and a lot of other scrap metal. We could not wait to tell Mama Downs about our discovery. She told us those were the remains of Papp’s old still. At that innocent age, we had no idea what she was talking about. Only later as a teenager did I stumble upon those remains once again and realized that was all that was left of my grandfather’s whiskey still.

Papp made corn whiskey, but my mother tells me he never made a dime from his whiskey. He gave it all away-usually in Mason jars. Everyone for miles around knew that John Henry Downs made corn whiskey, but no one ever turned him in to the authorities because at one time or another Papp gave almost everyone in the country some of his recipe.

My mother and her 10 brothers and sisters grew up in a house constructed of rough-cut pine with no running water, no insulation and no heat except a fireplace and a pot-bellied stove. She says they thought they were rich because they were never hungry, and they heard about other people being hungry. They thought they were rich because everybody they ever saw was just like them.

So many of our children and grandchildren are growing up thinking about how they are going to become rich. The pursuit of riches is nothing new under the sun. For time immemorial people have sought riches.

I regularly talk with people who have attained a great deal of wealth. Many of them are not really happy with their wealth. Some of them will say the pursuit of wealth is all that is important to them. Some have as their goal to gain more and more wealth. Some of them would trade places with people of less wealth just to get out from under the burden of having to make decisions about their wealth. Many of them regret that they did not talk to their children and grandchildren more about values than valuables.

I am so happy that many Christians who are people of wealth totally understand how to manage their wealth in a manner that is pleasing to our Lord. They understand the biblical mandate of generosity and legacy that is embedded in these biblical passages:

“Command those who are rich in this present world not to be arrogant nor to put their hope in wealth, which is so uncertain, but to put their hope in God, who richly provides us with everything for our enjoyment. Command them to do good, to be rich in good deeds, and to be generous and willing to share. In this way they will lay up treasure for themselves as a firm foundation for the coming age, so that they may take hold of the life that is truly life. 1 Timothy 6:17-19

“A good name is to be more desired than great wealth.” Proverbs 22:11

From Philippians 4:19, “And my God will supply all your needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus.”

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Standard Shift

All our grandkids’ first driving experience is with our Kubota side-by-side RTV. The handbrake is worn out from grandkids forgetting to release the brake before engaging the accelerator. There is not much else that they can do to this 1700 lb. diesel-powered machine, so it is a good means of letting the grandkids learn to drive. They usually begin at an early age sitting in my lap and holding on to the steering wheel. They progress to actually steering the RTV, and after a few years they begin to sit in the driver’s seat alone while I (or another adult) sit beside them. All of this learning experience takes place on the farm and not on a public road so it is a safe environment.

I think it is sad that kids never learn to drive a straight shift vehicle, so I encourage our grandchildren to learn to drive my standard shift tractor. Granted the tractor is much more forgiving on the friction point of the clutch, but they do learn the basic principles of driving a straight shift.

This past weekend Naomi, 15, and Caleb, 14, had their first tractor driving experience. After you get the tractor in motion there is no changing gears until you stop, so I am hollering at them to stop and then go once again. That gives them more practice with the clutch. I am proud of them wanting to learn to drive the tractor because anyone can drive a vehicle with automatic transmission, but few can drive the standard shift.

Many people today are in automatic drive. They are rushing through life with all of its routines and forgetting some standard things in life: telling your spouse “I love you,” sitting down with your child and actually having a conversation without looking at your phone, dancing with grandchildren, having a sit-down meal with the whole family, spontaneously giving someone something, sitting around the fireplace or firepit with family with no TV or devices, walking in the woods, having an impromptu picnic with someone you love, driving for nearly two hours one way just to watch a grandchild’s soccer game, pausing and enjoying a sunrise or sunset, staring at the clouds and imagining designs that you see in them, playing board games with grandchildren, picking up someone’s check in a restaurant (probably not in the past year!), starting a new hobby, and on and on.

The simplest things in life are the ones that are most often overlooked because we live in automatic drive. Every day we should practice standard drive and see God in his creation, the food we eat, the air we breathe, the friendships we enjoy, and the pleasures of family, work, and hobbies. 

“Instruct those who are rich in this present world not to be conceited or to fix their hope on the uncertainty of riches, but on God, who richly supplies us with all things to enjoy.” I Timothy 6:17 NASB.

Auto drive discourages us from many simple pleasures in life. Take a ride in standard shift and enjoy life more.

Two Pairs of Cowboy Boots

I have only owned two pairs of cowboy boots. Now I have owned dozens of pairs of boots—the working kind. Real cowboys would say to me that their boots are working boots, but I have never wrestled steers or ridden bulls. I do know the difference in bulldogging heels and walking heels. The two pairs of cowboy boots that I have owned have had more of a roper heel which is more like the heel of a normal leather shoe. It is not as tall as the more traditional “bulldogging” or cowboy heel.

Not long after college, I was headed to northern New Mexico to work for the summer, and I traveled the southern route to visit my best friend from college who had joined the army and was stationed in El Paso. I had never visited Mexico, so we enjoyed crossing the border and visiting Juarez. Of course, the times they have changed because I would not visit Juarez during these days.

But in the early 70s, it was a popular tourist destination for US citizens because you could be there in a few minutes from El Paso. One of my objectives was to buy cowboy boots because the quality of the leather and the craftsmanship was good in Mexico, and they were much less expensive. I found the pair that I wanted. When Cheryl first saw them, she said why did you buy orange boots? They weren’t really bright orange, but I admit that they were a subdued shade of orange.

The haggling over the price of the boots was quite an event. The merchant and I could not agree on a price, so I acted uninterested and picked up a guitar and begun strumming. The merchant asked me if I knew the song “More.” At that time I knew most of Andy Williams’ songs by heart because Cheryl and I had listened to a plethora of his songs while dating. I told him that I knew it, and he asked me to sing it  for him. I told him that I would sing it if he would agree on my offer for the boots. He agreed if I would sing the entire song.

I strummed and began singing, “More than the greatest love the world has known. This is the love I give to you alone. More than the simplest words I try to say. I only live to love you more each day.” I got my boots at my price!

Actually, I did not wear those boots much because they were just not as comfortable as my lace-up Wolverine boots. A few years later when we packed our crates for West Africa, I included my cowboy boots because I thought they would be a novelty in Ivory Coast. I wore them a few times and, yes, they got a lot of attention. When we packed up to move back to the states to go to graduate school, I decided to give them away.

Each house in our neighborhood had a guard to “protect” the house. I am sure there was some kind of conspiracy among the guards because all of them slept most of the night while “guarding” our property. Anyhow, I gave my orange boots to our guard, and from that time he was known as the “Midnight Cowboy” (that was the title of a popular movie during that era, and this is not quite as funny as it was 40 years ago!).

While I was visiting with a Chick-fil-A Operator friend in Texas, we were doing some chores on his ranch, and he looked at me and asked, “Do you have any cowboy boots?” I told him the story about the midnight cowboy, and I also told him that the boots never were that comfortable to me. He told me that I just never had any good boots that were the proper fit, and then he said to me, “Get in the truck because I want to take you somewhere.”

The somewhere was a western boot store about 30 minutes from his ranch. As we walked in, my friend told me to pick out a pair of boots, and he wanted to buy them for me. I was so surprised at this generous offer, but I was stunned at the prices of the boots. These were no Juarez-priced boots! My friend encouraged me to try on several pairs until I knew that I had found the right ones. It happened. When I tried on that last pair it felt right and like it was made for my feet. He was right—when you get the right cowboy boots you don’t have to break them in.

During our lives we received a lot of gifts. Something I love about receiving a gift is the joy that the person giving the gift receives when I accept the gift. When I tried on the right pair of boots and exclaimed how great they felt on my feet, my friend’s face showed the joy that he was experiencing with giving me these boots. Giving generously brings joy.

It is not about money. It is about the ALL. Paul emphasized the ALL in 2 Corinthians 9:8 (NIV): “And God is able to make ALL grace abound to you, so that in ALL things at ALL times having ALL that you need you will abound in every good work.”

Notable Ice Cream

Our leadership team was on a planning retreat in North Carolina. We had been working on Lifeshape’s strategic initiatives and developing the budget to implement those plans. After knocking heads for a couple days we had planned a team building outing—we went shooting.

When we chose the venue for shooting clays, little did we know how long it would take us to get there. On the map it looked like an hour trip. But the venue was not only up in a valley tucked between two mountains, the road was as crooked as a dog’s hind leg.

After about three hours walking the courses and shooting, we were exhausted from the walking on the mountainside and from getting wet in the rain, plus we were hungry. After driving for an hour and a half without seeing an eating place, we finally drove up to a Mom-and-Pop café. We noticed that there were no other cars in the parking lot, which is usually a bad sign. When we walked into the door a young lady behind the counter said, “Sorry we are closed.”

That was awful news, but after a few minutes of sharing how hungry we were the cook came out of the kitchen and said that he would feed us. That was music to our ears. I don’t know if it was our hunger or what, but that was some tasty hamburger, fries and onion rings. We finished off this 4,000-calorie meal with shakes and malts. It is not often that I see malts on the menu, so I had to order a malt. It was a chocolate malt to remember—hand-dipped with extra chocolate and extra malt.

Over the years I have had many such memorable experiences that involved ice cream which are too numerous to list, but I would like to share a few.

In the small town in Mississippi where I grew up, we did not have but one soft serve ice cream place called Dairy Freeze, and there was only one soda fountain called Seale-Lily Ice Cream. By the way, for your younger reader that soda fountain is not like the ones in every convenience store today. It was an ice cream place, and a soda was ice cream mixed with carbonated water and a flavor (strawberry was my favorite because Cheryl and I would often share one while we were dating. 😊   

I cannot talk about favorite ice creams without including homemade ice cream in Sanwabo, Upper Volta (now Burkina Faso). It wasn’t that it was the best tasting ever ice cream, it was just the fact that we were able to have ANY ice cream with the extreme conditions. We were in the Sahel, the buffer zone between the savannah and the Sahara Desert. Our only refrigeration was a kerosene-operated refrigerator and freezer. When the fridge was operating properly it took two days just to make a couple trays of ice, so we had to save ice for weeks to have enough to make homemade ice cream. In case you are wondering, yes, we could buy blocks of ice in the capital city—four hours away. With temperatures in our unairconditioned vehicle staying around 100 degrees, it was not practical to transport ice. So, it was rare to have ice cream in Sanwabo, and that made it even more special.

During the mid-1990s we lived in Kandern, Germany. It was a quaint and gorgeous village set in the southern most part of the Black Forest near Basel, Switzerland. Just off the town square was an Italian gelato shop. Everything was made there in the shop, and they had the very best gelato. One of their creations was spaghetti ice. Ice cream was run through a grinder to produce the spaghetti. The kids loved this dish, but I favored the mango and pistachio.

Mango sherbet, gelato or ice cream is my favorite, and I have tried it in many countries through the years. The best? From a tiny ice cream shop in Acree, Brazil, right on the border with Peru.

So where do I eat ice cream now? Chick-fil-A has a good milk shake (I am still a company guy). I like peach best.  Steak and Shake has a good chocolate shake. Jack’s has hand-dipped milk shakes that are tasty. Freddy’s custard is a new favorite, but they don’t make good shakes and don’t have malts. I also like other premium custards at Culver’s or Braum’s. With a name like Shake Shack you would think it would be the best. It was ok, but not notable especially at that price!

I have tried all the fast-food shakes. The only other one notable is Burger King with the distinction of being the worst shake that I have purchased.

Presently, my favorite ice cream is Sam’s Club premium vanilla. It is creamy as custard and as smooth as butter. Plus it tastes as good as any other premium ice cream that I have tried and costs less too.

My all -time favorite ice cream treat is still a chocolate malt. They are increasing hard to find as millennials (who are the largest population segment) never developed a taste for malted milk. I give most of my chocolate malt business to Cookout. I love the gritty powdered malted that they use.

The best chocolate malted milk? I make it and load it with Nestle/Carnation powdered malted milk. Come to see me and I will make a believer out of you!

Cold Cash

Hoarding has become the norm for the past year during this COVID-19 season.

Eleven months ago I was living in Atlanta during the weekdays while finishing up the last week of my proton therapy treatments. At that time we had just started hearing about this new virus called COVID-19. There was all this talk about how to avoid it by “social distancing”. I remember how happy I was that in one week I would be finished with my treatments and could stay at home for a while. Little did I know how long I would be at home!!

We don’t have a Costco in our town, but we keep a card so when we are in Atlanta we can buy some supplies. Well, Cheryl had asked me to pick up a couple things at Costco. When I arrived at the Costco parking lot, I thought that they must have been having a giant sale or something because the parking lot was full of vehicles and people pushing buggies piled high with merchandise.

As I walked towards the door, I noticed that almost every buggy had some of the same things in them—toilet paper, paper towels, bottled water and cleaning supplies.  I went in Costco and could not believe the length of the checkout lines.  It was madness. Hoarding had begun.

I could probably be considered a hoarder for a lot of reasons, but I developed those traits long before the coronavirus. For example, I don’t like to throw away any building materials. I built a barn big enough to store lumber inside the barn. Among my lumber collection are some pieces of 100-year-old barn wood left over from using it on the walls of our home during the construction in 2007-08. There is also wood from many other construction projects over the years. I don’t like to go to town to buy a couple boards when I have a small project to do. Actually, the barn is full of other “jewels”.  Our granddaughter, Darby, is wired for organizing things. She has helped me organize my junk in the barn in the past, and recently she was in the barn but did not have time do her magic, so I am sure that my mess drove her crazy. Sorry, Darby!

COVID-19 season has not made my mother a hoarder. She grew up very poor without running water in their rundown house which was heated only by a fireplace and a pot-bellied stove. She says that she and her ten brothers and sisters were never hungry because they worked hard on the farm all summer growing food and canning and drying food for the winter. All my life my mother has hoarded food. Even today and living alone, she has two full-sized refrigerators and three (yes, THREE) full-sized freezers of food.

She may have hoarded food, but she did not keep other things around. I had one of the best baseball card collections you could dream of. I am talking about Whitey Ford, Micky Mantle, Bobby Richardson, Roberto Clemente, Willie Mays, Ernie Banks, Stan the Man, and my favorite Yogi Berra (I was a catcher). I had hundreds of cards. I had so many that I would give some to my friends, and we would clip a card on to the fender bracket of our bicycles with a wooden clothespin so it would make a sound with the spokes that we thought imitated a motorcycle. Once the card became worn, I would give them another one. I had plenty.

Well, those cards disappeared while I was away in college. My mother said to me, “Why would anybody want to keep old stinking baseball cards?” I wish that she had been a hoarder of things other than food.

For many years she did like to keep something else. Growing up we kidded her about a metal Folger’s can (the type that you used a metal “key” to roll around the top to remove it) she kept in one of her freezers. She had punched a slot in the top so she could drop coins in it. She paid no attention to our teasing about her money can. She would tell us that no burglar would ever think to look in her freezer for her “cold cash.”

Today that coffee can has a place of honor on our kitchen countertop so all our kids and grandkids will be reminded of the importance of saving money for emergencies and special needs.

Old Friends

I was folding some laundry and while folding a towel I remembered something from a few years ago. As I get older there are more different and even random things that remind me of something that happened in the past.

A few years ago Cheryl announced to me that she had purchased new bath towels and that she was throwing away the towels that we were presently using. I was not happy. There was one particular old towel that was my favorite. I would use a different towel only while my “best” was being washed and dried.

Granted the old towel did look a bit scraggly and tattered, but that towel and I were best friends. Losing it was not easy for me. The day came when a new towel appeared on my rack, and my old friend was gone. Now I did not experience separation anxiety, and I did not cry. I did fuss at Cheryl again. But my favorite towel was gone.

It was, indeed, like losing an old friend. Now for you old friends out there, I am not comparing you to an old towel. I am saying that I have lots of old friends and all of them are not of the human species. I recently said goodbye to a cow that was an old friend. Her name was Sablaga which in the More’ language means black. She was born on our farm 12 years ago and had delivered 10 calves during her time at Ton Tenga. She was old for a producing cow, and she was having trouble walking. When I sold her she had her number 10 calf by her side, and it was a healthy little steer calf, so she still knew how to take care of her offspring.

We have a Great Pyrenees dog that lives in the pasture with our animals, and I love her, and she does a great job of protecting all our animals, but she has not yet attained the honor of being one of my farm old friends. We also have a yard dog named Meg, and she is only good at wagging her tail at anyone who comes on the farm.

Boss is another old friend. He was passed on to us 12 years ago from our son-in-law because he was not a good house dog. Boss has served well as a yard dog at the house. He hates deer, and we have a plethora of them that like to approach the house where they feast on our two apple trees, daylilies, blackberry bushes, hostas, and other delicacies.

As for a deterrent to anyone with criminal intent, Boss would not get a good grade. Of course, now he is old, so why should he get out of his bed (heated in the wintertime!) to greet the UPS delivery truck. Interestingly, he does get up to greet the less frequent visits of the FedEx truck because that driver always gives him a treat.

Every afternoon I get the Kubota side-by-side out of the garage and drive down to the barn to feed all the animals, get the eggs, and get the mail (our mailbox is 0.4 mile down our drive). Every afternoon Boss gets out of his bed no matter what the temperature is or what kind of precipitation is coming down, and he climbs up in the Kubota with me. However, since he is getting so old in dog years, he is not as perky as he used to be.

Boss’ place is in the floor on the passenger side, but some days Boss will just sit there staring at me as I sit in the driver’s seat. He cannot get his body to jump up in the Kubota. He will raise a paw on the floorboard’s edge and rock his body, but he just is not able to make that 18-inch jump. I have tried to help him, but he whines because it hurts his achy joints. On those days I have to leave him behind.

My old friend, Boss, and I have a lot in common. We have reached that point in life when we can’t do everything that we formerly did. I totally understand Boss’ stage of life. I am there! On some days I don’t feel like getting outside and doing my chores, but that is my therapy, and I know it is good for me. Plus, once I get going, I love being with the animals and doing my chores.

The adage “Old friends are the best friends” is so true. They are not the ones who only like you for what they can get out of you. They are the ones who love you through the hard times, who support you when you are hurting, who love being with you no matter what life stage you are in, and who are always there for you.

Here’s to old friends—the human ones and the other kind, too!