Beard
Folks ask me questions about my beard, but I am going to answer only the one question asked the most in this post. Why are you sporting a beard? I have never had a beard for more than a few weeks until the past few weeks. Having a beard at this point in my life is a practical thing to do. It covers some of those old age wrinkles. However, those wrinkles represent challenges I have faced. The greater concern is when I have facial spasms, my whole face looks like I am in a circus side show. The beard helps to cover up those contortions. Just to be clear once again: we do not think that the spasms and contortions are related to my cancer, but to the Blepharospasm in my eyes. However, I have fewer spasms in my face since I started the infusions.
The pains on the left side of my face, where the cancer has manifested itself, have greatly reduced since starting my infusions 3+ months ago. I am on a three-week cycle now. On April 8 I will have my sixth infusion, and every three weeks we will go to Emory for another treatment. The actual time for the infusion is only 30 minutes, but the preparations, procedures and protocols take much longer. However, I am in a very comfortable chair from 8 a.m. until 1:30 p.m.
Radiation has modified my smile. I haven’t had any directed radiation on my mouth since 2020, but I have had numerous scans and MRIs on my head and face in the past year. Back in April 2024 I started having a tingling on the left side of my chin and lip. None of my physicians at that time could diagnose why the left side of my mouth would not open properly. The numbness continued to spread upward to my ear and my cheek bone. By that time, we knew that this pain and numbness was related to the reappearance of my salivary gland cancer. Children and more than an occasional adult were staring at my crooked mouth, so I decided to grow a beard.
But behind my crooked smile and my beard lies a heart full of love for people. In a eulogy for my mother and his grandmother, Jeremy talked about how Mimi made people smile through the acts of service she made all her life. Like Mimi, I want my life—and even my crooked smile—to make others smile about their relationship to God through Jesus Christ.
I give thanks every morning for another day to live. Why do I pray for the Lord to extend my life when I could be in his presence? God did not create us to live Christ-like lives and then make our own plans to die. So, every day I thank the Lord for the ability to talk openly with family, friends and colleagues about my death. I thank Him even more for the opportunity to talk with someone about my walking into the arms of the Lord as I make the transition from life on this earth to a more abundant life in heaven.